Wanted. Planned. Intended

Agak dah lama juga orang tak tanya direct bila nak dapat cahaya mata.

One incident that really annoy me...masa tu pergi kenduri kawan di JB ni. My mind and mood was soooo good that day. Makan kenduri kaaann...

Then masa tu tengah duduk-duduk bawah khemah...borak dengan husband..suddenly this one lady came sat right in front of me...my husband was sitting behind me..

I honestly do not know her at all. Not at all. Never met her. Turn out she was my husband's ustazah during his secondary school if I'm not mistaken. And then suddenly without any salam..

"Dah ada baby ke...?"

I was stunned. I was like...hello...siapa kaaauuu....dah la tak kenal..salam takde tiba-tiba muncul depan muka tanya main ikut sedaaaap je...

Then my husband asnwered her la with usual answers..

She just..."hmmm.insyaAllah ada la tu..." and then...she went away....just like that...

Cis..tak ada modal sangat la kan kau nak berborak dengan anak murid kau..tapi manners tak ada..
And my husband pun cerita la ustazah dia tu memang kepoh macam tu je...

But i was hurt la...tak teruk meraung pun..but still...

Then yesterday, there is one teacher at my kindergarten where I work now, is her last day before she went for maternity leave. She is younger than me, and only got married around last year. I do not know when, because I only start working here this January.

She was nice. Biasa-biasa aja..

But yesterday, during lunch..I was just about to put some lauk in my plate, suddenly she asked

"Akak bila lagi...."
"Bila apa.." I was suspect that question but just ask, in case tersalah dengar
"Bila lagi nak menimang cahaya mataaaa"

You know, soalan simple je..tapi bila orang tanya direct, takde sensitivity ni kan..I memang pantang sikit lah...

Terus jawab
"Kalau yang awak tanya ni Tuhan, boleh laaa akak jawab..."
Then she continued..
"Akak merancang ke..?" Gila laa direct soalan kau dik..depan teachers lain pulak tu..
I answered
"Eh of course laaa kena rancang.."
Then she kinda shock, because eventually (malas dah nak type dialog) for her, merancang kehamilan is at first, kau tak nak anak, so kau makan pil perancang untuk taknak anak lagi, kemudian2 baru nak.

For me, that is sooo narrow minded kind of definition of merancang kehamilan.

Saya pernah pergi 1 kuliah oleh Dr.Harlina Siraj,,dia kata setiap kehamilan perlu dirancang.Well planned Sebab nak membawa seorang manusia, mendidik dan menjaga anak ni, perlu kepada perancangan. Bukan main harunggg je. Anak berderet rapat-rapat, susu makan minum kesihatan entah ke mana..

Yes, memang ada bunting pelamin la, eksiden2 terbabas2 laa..tu rezeki. Tapi kita punya sedikit kudrat untuk merancang aturan hidup kita.

Dan antara yang termasuk dalam merancang kehamilan adalah
- berapa orang nak
- selang berapa tahun
- kesihatan sebelum, semasa dan selepas kehamilan
- kesihatan suami isteri
- makanan dan minuman
- rawatan
- tempat pemeriksaan
- kewangan
- kesihatan anak sebelum dan selepas lahir
dan sebagainya...

itukan termasuk dalam merancang kehamilan. Bukan makan pil perancang aje maksud merancang kehamilan

Sebab setiap anak yang lahir layak nya untuk di kehendaki, dirancang dan kita memang nak. Sebab ada ramai yang dapat anak tapi eksiden2 ni..lepas tu merungut anak ramai, rapat2, penat lah apa lah.

Wanted. Planned. Intended. Every kids deserve that. At least in MY opinion.

Dan saya serta TTC lain termasuk dalam golongan yang wajib merancang kehamilan kami. Segalanya perlu dirancang. Bila period, bila ovulate, bila cucuk sana sini, bila makan ubat.

Itulah perancang kehamilan kita. Semoga Allah bagi kekuatan untuk meneruskan ye.

Bila dah bagi jawapan falsafah sikit, terus borak ke lain and blah.....

Marilah praktis otak tu berfikir sedikit. Jadi bijak sedikit. Dan paling penting...sensitive la sikitttt,,,

Though my husband always said...biarkan..jangan layan takut nanti lama-lama cara kita jawab jadi rude pada orang....and jangan sampai mudah melenting. Yes benda tu sensitive.....

I'm still searching for the calmness way to face it...Sebab memang, kalau I dah melenting, i tend to be rude.

Lantak la kau dik. Selamat lah bersalin nanti~